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5 things we should never give away freely! They should be earned.

10/10/2014

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5 THINGS WE SHOULD NEVER GIVE AWAY FREELY! THEY SHOULD BE EARNED.

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Time: Time never stops and it continues to move forward. That means you continue to grow and evolve with the experiences you go through.  These experiences should be filled with people that care about you, give you positive energy and are beneficial for your overall health and wellness. It should never be used on people who are going to continuously suck up your positive energy while wasting away your time and give you stress and worry. Time does not stop and that makes life very short to be wasted on such individuals and group.  

Positive Energy:  Those that don’t appreciate your positive energy will tend to drag you down. They do this by not acknowledging your hard work, your positivity and your commitment. They can also give you negative energy in return which in time will affect you. Stay away from such people unless they change, but don’t ever think you can change them. That is not your job, not at work, not in family setting and not in the community. You can certainly be a mentor and coach, those are different roles and even then you can only do so much. 

Intellectual Drive: We put in a lot of our intellectual energy in our work, our families and community. Those that appreciate our intellectual energy and thoughtful care of being will give us the same in return. It’s the best of our conversations, kindness, love, affection and communication.  Those that tend to disrespect and or disregard your intellectual energy are not worth your thoughts.

Advice: In definition, it means guidance or recommendations concerning prudent future action, typically given by someone regarded as knowledgeable. Those that respect your time, your positive energy, and your intellectual drive will come to appreciate your advice. Why? Because when you share your advice what you are really sharing is your life experience, your educational background, and your years or decades of achievements. Those that don’t respect your advice really don’t respect all of what makes up who you are. Showing respect to what you have to say, does not mean the other person will have to take your advice, but it means they will use your advice as a form of check list and give it due respect.  Those that cannot even do that don’t deserve your advice.

Lastly, you’re Feelings:   Feelings for many can be a vulnerable starting point. When you share with others how you feel about variety of things, you are really sharing your heart. Like a moving river, how you feel about things can change as you grow and mature. When you share your feelings, others naturally should appreciate and feel honored. If they don’t, then trust me, they are not worth your time because they will suck up your time, positive energy, and intellectual drive.

So smile, be positive and live life with kindness and joy towards yourself and others who are willing to give you the same.

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Johanna
10/10/2014 04:53:28 am

Great article! I especially appreciated the final words about sharing feelings.
My question is: How do we know when others have earned the sharing of these 5 things?

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Mohammad Zafar link
10/13/2014 05:31:44 am

Dear Johanna,

Thank you for giving me your intellectual drive: by reading the article, sharing of the positive comment and for taking the time to ask such an important follow up question.

In essence, you gave your time, positive energy, intellectual drive, advice and feelings. That is amazing and important to point out!

Thank you!

To answer your question: “How do we know when others have earned the sharing of these 5 things?”

When it comes down to assessing others on giving them our time, positive energy, intellectual drive, advice and feelings or evaluating if they have earned them, we must look at the individual persons emotional intelligence, sincerity level , our connection/relationship/partnership/friendship to them and circumstance.

Ask the following questions, when you give your time to the person, how do you feel? How do they make you feel? What are they giving you in return? Or how are you benefiting from it? Most importantly, is it a healthy benefit? Short term benefit? Long term benefit?

I am not asking for us to be selfish but simply asking for us to be mindful.

If the answer to the “time” is positive, then you are on the right track. Your time should be filled with the company of that person, through sharing of positive energy. They should push your intellectual drive while building you up- full of holistic advice and love.

Please let me know if that answers your question or need further clarification.

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Anonymous
10/10/2014 06:07:06 am

What if it's your spouse?

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Mohammad Zafar link
10/10/2014 06:20:46 am

Greetings,

Any and all relationships longevity, resiliency, and holistic contentment is essentially based on mutual understanding and respect. Especially with a relationship that is as personal, intimate, and committed as a spouse.

Understanding the mentioned elements, one can draw the conclusion that especially a spouse should earn your and give their time, positive energy, intellectual drive, advice and feelings.

Frankly, that is the bear minimum of what they should be honored with doing.

Please let me know if this answers your question and if you need further clarification.

Thank you!

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